You will never get the truth out of a narcissist. The closet you will ever come is a story that either makes them the victim or the hero, but never the villain.

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Narcissists are the people who are highly insecure and go to any lengths to hide their insecurity. To protect themselves from being emotionally harmed, they are too protective about themselves. It is what makes narcissist people come across as rude and arrogant. Narcissist people have their own world view and perspective, which in most cases, doesn’t align with the truth or reality. When it comes to social dynamics, they do pretend to be highly social, but the truth is narcissist, people aren’t liked or loved much in social circles, even though they may be popular. 

God save you or bless you with tremendous patience if you are in a relationship with a narcissist because rest assured, narcissist people aren’t going to be very giving, flexible, transparent, or in some cases, even trustworthy. You need to cope with a lot when it comes to dealing with narcissist people as they love to play the blame game, and in fact, they are the experts at this game. One of the biggest shortcomings of narcissist people is they continue to compare their lives with others around them. While it is natural for a human being to seek and work towards moving forward in life, they are the envy of others who are ahead of them. Even when they congratulate you on getting a new job or buying a new car, they secretly envy you. They are not really happy for others, and it is this habit of comparing themselves with others and getting jealous of others’ success, which makes it impossible for them to be happy as well.

Read: Call me Crazy, But I Love to See other People Happy and Succeeding! Life is a Journey, Not a Competition.

It is important for people to love your own self before loving others, but narcissist people take it to another level altogether. Narcissist people are obsessed with themselves, and they can’t easily comprehend the fact that they have any shortcomings. They don’t like to talk from a weak position or showcase their vulnerability to anyone. It is such a negative attitude that doesn’t allow them to accept their mistakes, even when they know they are the ones at fault. Narcissist people are good at beating around the bush and may even succeed in shifting blames on you in a way that you start to believe it just might be your fault. They are control freaks, and they personify the saying – my way or the highway. If things do not go their way, they do simply pull out – whether it is a relationship, job, or any other situation in life.

Narcissist people are good at hiding things and keeping secrets, especially when it comes to revealing their vulnerability. If they have wronged you, the chances are that you won’t get an apology ever. In fact, they might turn the tables and make you feel it is your mistake. And, the way they would shift the blames would confuse you. They will never take the responsibility of their action, and you won’t be able to hold them accountable for how much they’ve wronged you because they get in defensive/aggressive mode as soon as you do that. They are too fast at concluding, and are not very keen on finding a solution if it is not in their favor.

The principle of righteousness doesn’t apply for narcissist people because of the way they are, and they just don’t care who or what is right or wrong, as long as they get their way. With that said, many people are flamboyantly narcissist, while others are passively, and not all of them are typically negative. It is just the way they are hard-wired. If you have someone close to you with the narcissistic traits, you may try to change their attitude and outlook to life with love, compassion, and long talks that unveils the true picture in front of them. Keep an open mind while doing so, as it may backfire, and things might not go as planned. They will never accept that they are the villain of the story, and would blame you for trying to change them instead.