Patience is When You’re Suppose to be Mad, But You Choose to Understand.

The first thing you need to know is what exactly ‘patience’ is. The dictionary meaning for patience is “the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, annoyance, or difficulty without getting angry or upset.” But, it is impossible for us to go through the day without feeling one of the above. Most people will get mad when they are faced with one or more difficult situation. The result is that it made the situation much worse. Thus, one need to learn how to respond to such situations patiently actually getting mad. You need to show compassion to others and it leads the way to understand their situation. When you are patient, you learn to accept life as it is and make a conscious choice to not to respond in anger or upset to what is going on around you. In today’s materialistic world, it is easy to see the failures of others rather than trying to find the main reason for the failure. When you are patient, you spend time learning what the other person is feeling and understanding their position.

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Here are some of the way how you can be more understanding, even during times when you are mad –

First, Put Yourself in Other’s Shoes

When you feel impatient and feel the urge to yell at someone, think about how you would feel if someone else screams the same things to you. You might have made a mistake, but no one should have treated you that way. It would also damage your morale, and you would not be motivated to do or work hard the next time. So, if you want others to understand your situation, you should do the same. Treat people with respect and be understood if you would want the same for you if you happen to be in the same situation.

Practice Being a Good Listener

A lot of times, we judge others based on their failures or their actions. But, we often do not want to understand what led them to behave the way they did. Before you can be sure that these people are messed up, listen to them first. You might just change your mind after hearing their side of the story and knowing what actually pushed them to behave in that manner.

Be Open Individual Differences

Not everyone can think or behave in the same way. When you are mad over other people’s actions, try to become aware of their beliefs, principles, and preferences. Be respectful of their choices, even if you do not agree with them. So, be open-minded and try to understand what others might be coming from. When you start to respect the differences, you will become more patient.

Be Aware that People Might be Going through Tough Times

Each one of us is fighting a personal battle. There might be people that you find rude and would like to stay away from. When they are around, you might feel tensed and have your patience tested. But, you never know what people might be going through. So, instead of disliking them, be kind to them and give them a chance to share their story. Help them by being kind to them.

Find Ways to Relate to People on a Personal Level

One of the reasons why people lose patience easily is when they are unable to relate to others. If you have never experienced what other people might be experiencing, it might be difficult for you to relate and think that their pain is real. So, try to find a way to relate to others so that you can see through them and understand their struggles.

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If you have ever been in a position where you were misunderstood by others, then it would become easier for you to be patient and learn to be kind. Treat people the way you would want to be treated. It is the only way you learn to be patient with others and not treat them with any biasness. Patience is one of the most valuable traits that everyone needs to develop. Without it, you will come across as counter-productive and will only waste your time and energy on things that are meaningless.